Videos

This video is for our New Dads learning a new normal, how things can change sometime in ways we did not expect them too. The purpose of this video is to normalise what you are experiencing, to understand that it is healthy to speak up when you feel you are not being heard, and learning to support yourself when things don’t feel right. Dad’s job is to fix things, and when it cant be fixed – then how can I help?
Post-Natal Depression – Baby Blues only last a few day after the baby has been born (due to hormones) after that, if you are still not feeling right, or your thinking patterns are not what you expected, even if you are feeling like this isn’t what I thought it was going to be like? Then perhaps watch this short clip, it just normalises what you may be feeling, sometimes we can be in a form of denial and ‘keep on swimming’ with no time to stop and breathe. You are not alone, even if you feel like you are. I can help. Please reach out.
Communication and Conflict Resolution – This can be the most important rule book you may need. There is an art to effective communication so you can get your point across in a way that the other party actually understands so you don’t have to keep having the same arguments. There is also a set of ‘rules’ that is most effective when there are conflicts between partners – if you know what you can and can’t do, you are both on the same page and can focus on what you want to achieve in a calm manner – so you both feel like you get a win-win situation!
In my experience with all clients, this is so important and I believe should be taught in all schools. A simplistic explanation to why Attachment Theory can be applied to you is it evaluates what relationship dynamic you grew up with, how that has influenced you as an adult, why it affects your current relationships and how to break certain cycles within families if you have children. Honestly, I adore this so much and get so much joy when I explain it to clients, its like the pieces fit – they understand why they think and react the way they do and gives them empowerment to then choose their own path.
This can be difficult, because these traumatic memories have such strong physiological responses associated with them – as soon as you start to bring them to light and allow you to remember them – that it feels so painful like this pain will be with you forever. I am here to let you know it wont. There are different strategies to re-learn these memories, have new feelings & associations attached to them, and eventually being able to live with them where it doesn’t trigger any past negative reactions. This video is a simplistic explanation of one approach we can use. We are all different, and we all respond and learn differently. We need to find out what works for you – and more importantly ‘why’ so in the future we are able to tackle these experiences with precision for what specifically works for you.
For our beautiful mothers, this can be a reality that was not expected which can have a devastating long term effect, can prevent asking for help, possibly affect your attachment with your child, resulting in flow-on behaviours towards your partner. This trauma can be physical, emotional and psychological. Such a huge event that you have been preparing for and envisioning for months – if it does not go as you expected or as you were aware, you can feel blind sighted. Shocked. Embarrassed. Overwhelmed. This is to show you that you are not alone, it is just not well known. Not openly spoken about. Call for a chat, book an appointment, seek support from those who understand without judgement.

Communication

Some helpful tips for effective communication – the important point to take away from this is “there is no communication without comprehension” – if you can’t understand why the other person is frustrated or upset, you will keep having the same conflicts over and over again. Listen, take turns, follow the rules (1 – 11) and think about how you can express how you are feeling so the other person can understand where you are coming from.

Conflict Resolution

When it comes to resolving conflict, one effective way that can help is by following a process – Stop – Reflect – Connect. When you can understand the separate elements and how your body physically reacts to conflict, then you can understand how to listen to your body and decipher how you are feeling and why it is so upsetting.
Try practicing the conflict dialogue “I felt… When… so, I need…” this is a logical sequence that removes heated emotions so you can communicate your perspective and feel listened to.

Tips for Young Adults with Budgets and Moving Out

This information sheet was requested by some of our mothers with teenagers. Sometimes with adolescent adults, there can be a power struggle with independence and reliance. From their perspective with all the changes that are happening, Mum’s advice is no longer relevant, but still needs to be delivered. An different approach can be if it is delivered from an ‘official source’ it has the status and importance of expertise that can have a permanent impact of their wellbeing and set young adults up for success.
If this is overwhelming, and you don’t quite understand how you can apply this to your life – come in for a chat and we can discuss how we can learn to prioritise saving money, understand motivation and rewards as well as set up positive behaviours to achieve future goals.

This can be a lot of information to understand – especially trying to apply it to your life to see achievable results. Finding that right balance between life, work, family, friends and your own self care can be difficult – But when you understand how external influences are challenging you, it can be easy to prioritise what is important to you, what makes you happy, recognising your body’s warning signs and how to feel happier daily. Understanding the 5 pillars of wellbeing, how they contribute to your overall wellbeing, as well as the external influences that can impact on achieving your happiness (locus of control, leaned helplessness/optimism, finding ‘flow’ and the Self-Fulfilling Prophecy)

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